I have been recently encountering many women whose husbands became Hebrew Israelites after they got married. These women started reaching out to me after a sister whose husband gave her an ultimatum shared her testimony on Facebook and tagged me in it. See the post here. I have since met so many beautiful, strong, pained women who are going through similar circumstances, and I have reason to believe that there are thousands more like them who may remain unnamed and whom I will never meet. Women who do not have the courage to reach out to me and are struggling through their situations alone. This article is for them.
Let me first start by saying that you are not alone; that you are not crazy; and that you are not called to follow your husband into some new, strange religion, contrary to your own conscience. I don’t know the particulars of your situation, but there are certain commonalities that I have observed from my interactions with the other sisters I have spoken to. I hope that you find comfort and encouragement in the following:
Beautiful sister, do not let go of your hold on God. Your husband may be trying to convince you that Jesus is everything but who you learned He was all your life. He may be trying to convince you that the word virgin means something other than what we clearly see in Scripture. He may be trying to make you believe that Jesus is the natural son of Joseph and Mary. If your husband is saying these things, please seek God and pray so that your mind may be fortified against these lies. I started with this because I don’t know if you’ll read the rest of this letter and I want to be sure that you know this is the most important thing I have to say to you.
We are truly living in the last chapter of the story we call life on earth. The enemy of your soul and mine is doing all that he can to pull Christians away from God. It is no coincidence that this doctrine attacks the Deity of Jesus. Its intent is literally to make you leave God for something that seems close enough. There is no “close enough.”
That being said, you may feel unprepared and incompetent to respond to the Scriptures your husband brings to you to prove his points. You nevertheless know that what he’s saying is wrong, but you can’t articulate why. Do not be intimidated by the number of Scriptures he is able to recite. Use this time to get closer to God for yourself. Use this time to understand what you believe and why. This situation has probably pushed you closer to God and His Word than you ever were before. Romans 8:28 teaches us that God will work out all things in our favor. That means your current trial is a blessing to you - especially if it is already drawing you closer to God.
I also want you to know that you are not alone. When I say that you are not alone, I mean that in two ways. (1) You are not the only one going through this situation. You may feel like no one understands what you are going through, but I assure you that there are many women in your exact situation. Women who are confused because when they see their husbands, they see a completely different person from the man they married. They see someone whose character and demeanor has changed. Being married to a Hebrew Israelite, especially if you are not one, and especially if he recently converted, seems like a very isolated experience. I did an interview with the young woman I spoke of above. Please watch it so that you will see that you are not alone. You can watch it here. There aren’t exactly places where you can go to find women going through what you’re going through, so the Lord inspired me to create a space for that, so if you want to connect, email me.
The second meaning behind my saying that you are not alone is: You are never alone, so long as you hold on to God. You MUST make Him your source of strength, your peace, your joy. If you need help with this, I can help you.
And the LORD, he it is that doth go before thee; he will be with thee,
he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed.
Finally sis, a few words on how to deal with your situation.
Stand firm in your convictions. The worst thing you can do is let someone make you believe what they say just for the sake of you maintaining what you want from them- whether that’s affection, peace in the home, or your marriage itself. That would be a form of idolatry, to compromise your beliefs for any human being. Your beliefs should be rooted in Scripture, and if you are not familiar with the Word, familiarize yourself sis and God will help you Himself.
Do not try to force your husband to come out of his beliefs. That would amount to you doing to him what he’s doing to you, and that isn’t right. God doesn’t operate in force. You trying to force him may look like you catching an attitude or arguing with him. Please watch this video I did on the subject of what to do when married to an “unbeliever.” By being rude, you are only going to make things worse. The Holy Spirit needs someone to be operating in His way if you want Him to grant deliverance. 1 Peter 3:1.
Exercise forgiveness and love. Read 1 Corinthians chapter 13 daily if you must. Compare your behavior with what God says love looks like, and wherever you see any flaws in yourself, ask God for help. Remember that you promised to love your husband for better or worse. “Do not get tired of being patient, loving, and kind to him. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” Galatians 6:9.
Create as much peace in your home as you can. Romans 12:18. You don’t have to disagree with every single thing he says. You do not have to make unnecessary battles in your home. In order to lead you spiritually, he should be following the right spirit, but you still have to honor and respect him as your husband. <3
Once again, I hope that you find some comfort in the fact that you are not the only one experiencing this, and that God is ready, willing and able to help you. If you want me to pray with you, please feel free to email me. My email address is listed below.
May God strengthen you and grant you peace. In Jesus’ name.
-Nefer Nitty, Esq.
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